Incestuous Idol The Dark Side Of The Female Psyche With Michael Tsarion

TITLE: INCESTUOUS IDOL - The Dark Side of the Female Psyche with Michael Tsarion CHANNEL: Willfully Evolving Woman DATE: 2026-04-22 ---TRANSCRIPT--- Welcome to the dark side of the female psyche with Michael Tsarion. Here we will be delving deeply into those dark corners of psychology that few have the courage to acknowledge. The evil that exists within the female psyche. This series aims to offer you viable solutions, resources, and potent insights that can aid you in your rehabilitation and empowerment. But be forewarned. This is a series not for the faint of heart, nor is it for the easily triggered. Rather, it is only for those courageous women who realize the severity of the hour humanity is in. This means if you’re going to listen to this series, you need to be ready to take self-ownership over your reactions and your responses. Because while women do hold the power to change the world, the state and quality of that change will invariably be influenced by how well a woman knows her own psyche. How beautiful, honorable, and dignified that woman chooses to become. If you are a woman who is choosing to willfully evolve, if you are a woman who sincerely desires to master yourself, your mind, and your behavior, then the information shared throughout this series will serve you well. Welcome back everybody to the dark side of the female psyche here with Michael. We are I can’t believe we’re actually on episode 17. So, if you’re new to this series, it is so so recommended that you go back and watch the other episodes because there’s a lot of context that has led up to where we are today. Um and this episode is titled Incestuous Idols. So, without further ado, Michael, please go right ahead. Thank you, Sarah. Nice to be back. And you’re quite right, it’s rather amazing, isn’t it, that we’ve come so far. But we’ve had to do it this way because as even people will see today during the this presentation, going slow was right. Uh to keep it in the straight line, also not to overcrowd each of the episodes. Uh that could so easily be done because you’re dealing with such a vast array of content. We’ve also said that because it’s psychological, it’s slippery. You know, the object of our study is one’s own self, one’s own psyche. So, that already presents problems to the masses uh who are not familiar. Maybe on a pop level, sure, Dr. Phil and minus, yeah, okay, we we understand. But when you really dig down into those deeper layers, it is a slippery issue. And there can be a lot of misunderstandings. But I think uh we have some very fascinating slides today. The final slide of last week is where we stopped, and it had to do with uh the mother-child relationship again, but this time a little bit uh hinting at the work of Alice Miller and those psychologists who have dug deep into that in its more perverted sort of way. So, yes, this is called Incestuous Idols. Uh and the point is that this is really part two of what we did last time with incestuous uh sorry, uh with uh uh you know, erotic masquerade last time. They kind of fit together, really. Uh people can think of them as running together, you know. Uh this one and that. Because what did we do then? We looked at as well, I gave a sketch of my theories on homosexuality. That was one of the points that we covered, you know, about halfway through. We started getting into that. And again, it’s not exhaustive. Uh it’s not saying that, “Okay, now I’ve nailed it and there’s no other uh data out there that should also be considered.” Nothing of the kind. And what I wanted to do in this program is to just color it in a little bit even more with some ideas uh that convinced me. But and oh, yes, and drawing on the work of Alice Miller particularly uh I think is very very valuable. Now, she wrote many many books on uh pediatrics and also in a way she sometimes fits into the kind of Thomas Szasz-ish anti-psychological um perspective, you know. Uh she was a trained psychologist. Like Melanie Klein, like others. But in a way, she was so critical of psychoanalysis and psychiatry that many people could put her more in this sort of Thomas Szasz R.D. Laing I can’t Every time I’m reading Alice Miller, I I hear her being an echo in many respects of our of the of R.D. Laing. Uh and I think rightly so. I think it’s what charges her books, makes her kind of different and more interesting, you know, than a lot of others. So, I would definitely recommend Thomas Szasz as being the top person for the criticism of Big Pharma and all the premises that we know. I’m such a fan of psychoanalysis, people often forget and psychology, people often forget that they’ve heard me criticize that as well. And criticize it sometimes quite strenuously. But that’s what I do. I I bring up both sides, always have, always have. I’m not you know, banging a drum or uh emphatically telling people what to believe and what to do. I’m providing the facts as I see them, making sure that the criticisms are properly uh discussed so that you have those, too. Because otherwise what what is an average person going to do, a listener? Even if they think in terms of like, “Yeah, I’d like to pick up some books on Freud or Jung and read a read a bit more.” Are they going to also then spend the decades to look at all the criticisms of all those of those two scholars? Or of all the myriad other teachers of psychoanalysis and psychology? Are they going to read the Jean-Paul Sartre and the 30 books that Thomas Szasz wrote? And Karl Kraus? Answer, no. Like they’ll have only the barest understanding. And yet this other side of criticism is vital to have. And I think we’ll actually be able in this program also to show evidence of that. It is very very important, and it figures in my teaching. But that’s why so few people can sort of grasp what I’m doing. They expect you to be wearing the T-shirt, banging the drum, you know, of a particular bias. And uh if you don’t, and you go back and forth, and you show the variegation aspect of these thoughts and ideas, uh you lose people. You really do, you But I think uh this whole question of homosexuality we touched on it last week. I think we had some very important things to say last time. But it’s important you know, sketch it in a bit more, add a bit of color. So, I think that’s what we can do as we go today. Would you mind, Sarah, then starting us off and reading that first slide, please? Freud originally discovered in the treatment partially conducted under hypnosis that all his patients, both male and female, had been abused children and recounted their histories in the language of symptoms. After reporting his discovery in psychiatric circles, he found himself completely shunned because none of his fellow psychiatrists was prepared to share the findings with him. Freud could not bear this isolation for long. A few months later, in 1897, he described his patients’ reports on sexual abuse as sheer fantasies attributable to their instinctual wishes. Humanity’s briefly disturbed sleep could now be resumed. Alice Miller, Banished Knowledge, Facing Childhood Injuries. Right. So, let’s look at that for a minute. In the early earliest days, Freud his letters, uh his correspondences, and his own writings on his patients clearly showed that he was open to the the idea as expressed by his clients, both boys and girls, that they had been molested. And for a while he openly spoke of it, you know, giving lectures and uh putting it into his uh writings only to find out that he was not being accepted. Now, those who’ve studied a little bit of the history of psychoanalysis know that Freud kicked up a a shitstorm of unimaginable proportions and was immensely unpopular throughout the whole of Europe. And that is also a miracle. I mean I mean completely inexplicable mystery why he wasn’t silenced completely and how psychoanalysis even entered the world at all. Once you’ve you know, studied it even on a one-on-one level, this becomes obvious. It’s one of those fascinating miracles because he was not accepted. His what we call libido theory, right, which is sexual based caused an uproar in Victorian society, the likes of which is unfathomable to us today. But that’s a big bushfire, right? That conceals what Alice Miller’s actually talking about because there was another dimension of the reason why he found himself to be unfavored by colleagues. And it’s this. Not only was he doing something extremely taboo by talking about sexuality in human beings, adults particularly, he now starts talking about childhood molestation. In Victorian society? In Austria? A Roman Catholic country? But it wouldn’t have mattered even if he was in Germany, which was Protestant. Either way. Or can you imagine? Puritan Switzerland and what have you? Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. No, no, no. So, there’s two levels to this. There’s the famous uh cases of him being a a radical thinker and being the victim of uh unimaginable pushback, people walking out of uh seminars, people fainting in the audience. I mean, the whole thing was just a bushfire, right? He was accused. He was ridiculed. And also then he’s Jewish. Go figure that, right? Oh, is this Jewish science that we’re dealing with? All of that. But while that all is happening, there’s a little other fiasco taking place, which actually has even more credibility when you look into it. As Alice Miller, who was on site on scene, you know, trained in in in trained in Europe, trained amongst these people, knew them personally, can read German, right? All of the rest of it. She’s not American. She’s not British, right? She was raised over there. She’s part of this community. And so, she knew it inside out. All the foundations. This is a an incredibly educated woman in in the subject in that sense of being there at the time, so to speak, you know, uh and watching this unfoldment. So, she’s drawing our attention to something here, another controversy, but not the one that’s more popularly known, the one that needs to be known. And she is the only one to address it. So, let’s go on. It is not surprising that Sigmund Freud had to conceal his surprising discovery of adult sexual abuse of their children. A discovery he was led to by the testimony of his patients. He disguised his insight with the aid of a theory that nullified this inadmissible knowledge. Children of his day were not allowed under the severest of threats to be aware of what adults were doing to them. And if Freud had persisted in his seduction theory, he not only would have had his introjected parents to fear, but would no doubt have been discredited and probably ostracized by middle-class society. In order to protect himself, he had to devise a theory that would preserve appearances by attributing all evil, guilt, and wrongdoing to the child’s fantasies, in which the parents served only as the objects of projection. We can understand why this theory omitted the facts. Alice Miller, For Your Own Good, Hidden Cruelty in Child Rearing and the Roots of Violence. Thank you. Yeah, exactly. So, what she points out there is that Freud then deliberately changed, turned it around. Now, what does what does this do? So, there’s many many The world is filled with opponents of Freud. And they have this and that reason for hating him and beating up on him and rejecting his findings. All across the world. We know this, right? We know this. It’s very unpopular. But the same people which I’ve been saying for decades now is that the same people who often bring these criticisms of Freud up know nothing about what we’ve just read. Mhm. Nothing. They don’t know this. It was covered cleverly covered up. Now, of course, on one reading of it, you just go, “Well, there you go.” The critic of Freud says, “Thanks, Michael. You’ve just give me the absolute proof for my right? Uh my criticalness about psychoanalysis. Thanks very much, and I’m off.” Mhm. I’ve been proven right. It was all rubbish. It was all Jew science. You know, whatever. And away they go. So, this is the threat, the danger. Freud knew it in his own life. He was afraid of being ostracized by his peers if he went along with the seduction theory, which posited that you know, children are molested by adults and have no rights. So, Miller is saying he deliberately sought to suppress that and change. And this is of course unforgivable. Now, whether or not then one goes further to say that this then invalidates the rest of Freud’s theories, multifarious as they are, that’s up to the individual. I don’t personally go that far, but there’s no way that I can stop people from from thinking that, right? It’s I wouldn’t even try. You either get value out of uh You either get value out of of these works or you don’t. But as I said before, in my work I always bring up the uh counterpoint, like we’re doing right now. Yeah. And you can’t stop fanatical people from saying, “Well, there you go. If he did this, this automatically invalidates. This is terrible. This is horrific.” And and of course it is. It absolutely is when you think about it in uh the larger terms of the kind of uh implications for the rest of society and for the victims, of course. He was a man who sort of cowed out under the pressure. That’s obviously not a good thing. And it might change one’s image of Freud. It might stain it to such a degree that you just want to chuck it all out. Now, I personally think that that’s a huge mistake. You definitely don’t want to go down that road. You see? But it’s an argument that’s going to last forever. And I just want to let people know that if you do, if you want to do that, then you’ve got to be armed with the work of Alice Miller. You should know it inside out. And especially with Thomas Szasz. Tho- those two alone. If you’re going to throw out the Freud and you’re going to throw out psychology and psychoanalysis completely as just junk science, then I don’t care. I don’t I don’t mind. Go ahead. But do it with authority. Do it with knowledge. Right? With a case. Have a case that you can bring into court, that you can argue substantially. Not some [ __ ] Jew hatred. Or all the rest of the you know, the stupid asinine and often mis- quoted criticisms. Oh, wasn’t he the guy that said that the boy wants to sleep with his mother? Ho ho ho. You know, no. No, that’s not acceptable. If you’re going to drop something, I want to see you have intellectual credibility. You can You can have intellectual credibility to throw out all of Freud if you wanted to. All of Jung, all of it. But for goodness’ sake, know why. You know, intellectually. But besides those footnotes, can we move on? Freud, when he was still open to questions and not armed against them with theories, a number of hypotheses emerged. Among others, a massive accusation of his father, as appears in one of his letters to Fliess. Unfortunately, my own father was one of these perverts and is responsible for the hysteria of my brother and those of several younger sisters. The frequency of this circumstance often makes me wonder. There you go. His closest friend was Wilhelm Fliess. They actually look like brothers. And he was one of his first early correspondents, one who he complained to, one who he shared his thoughts, especially when the world was up with its fists in his face. Freud had very few people to turn to. And William Fliess was one of them. And William Fliess was also privy. He was one of the first people that were privy to Freud’s emerging theories. Right? Yeah. One of his earliest confidants that he could bounce ideas off. This is important. And of course, Miller makes a lot of this. She’s read all their letters and everything like that. And she makes a great deal out of this. But what’s the key point of that slide? Freud is accusing his own father of molesting, if not him himself, but then the brother and maybe his sisters. And Miller will make a lot of that. She thinks that this is not incidental to Freud turning it around because of course then psychologically he would have resistance, wouldn’t he? To accusing the father. The very theories that Freud himself would purvey to unbelievable import. He was a victim of them, meaning father projection, or as he would call it, transference. The idol the idolatry aspect. Freud himself was suffering from it, couldn’t detach from it. Maybe even prejudiced his own intellectual credibility in order to preserve in his own mind for himself. Right? These amagos which we’ve talked about before how they become embodied. We know the word super ego from Sigmund Freud. Yet the man is a living example of of the power of the super ego to override one’s you know core integrity. One’s inherent settings. Which of course would be full of revulsion. We don’t We’ve done it all before. We so we don’t need to go into it now. That’s why we’ve done these things in a certain order to point to make it clear to people that here you have a conflict, don’t you? The super ego wants to augment the images of the parents, but how can you do that when the

[clears throat] true self is in revulsion of those same parents? You’re getting You’re coming out of the infancy in a state of unimaginable conflict. Which then does what? Causes anxiety. And then the super ego comes on as the master of coping mechanisms that handle, right? To try and bleach. It’s like a blood-soaked room. Just What has happened here? Right? Well, in the come with his overalls trying to scrub it all away. And you never get rid of it completely as we’ve said. But hey, given the holocaust that took place, the super ego does a pretty good job of suppressing that rage, that fear, and that twisted allegiances. You put that big Prozac smile on your face and out you go. But in what form, what shape are you entering in the world? And then you have to face all of its anxieties? And then now we even know this. Can we not then account for why the world is the way it is, why people are the way they are, why the bizarreities are right? The man in allegedly rational in suit and ties can sign up for genocide. Right? And and soldiers can do the atrocities that they’re doing, raping women, and all that. The whole all the crime in the world. Are we ever going to even understand why this is happening, all the hypocrisy and the the chaos and the cruelty? Or as I keep pointing out in my life, the sadism, right? The masochism that you do the cruelty that one does to oneself. That’s to me what really needs to be addressed and isn’t. So we’re hovering around it here. Freud’s own biography is one of conflict, one of not being able to break the fourth commandment, honor thy mothers and father, even no matter what evils they’ve done. But let’s go on. Fliess’s son, Robert, later became a psychiatrist and analyst and published three books containing some very revealing material on sexual abuse by parents of their own children. Yeah, that’s right. Wilhelm Fliess’s own son goes on to become a psychologist. Let’s read on. It took Robert Fliess many decades to find out that at the age of two, he had been sexually abused by his father and that his incident coincided with Freud’s renunciation of the truth. In his book, Robert Fliess made his personal history public because he was convinced that his father had deterred Freud from further developing the trauma theory. Alice Miller. Absolutely unbelievable. So Alice Miller has discovered that Fliess’s Sorry, Freud’s closest confidant was himself a pedophile. And when Freud came to him with the seduction theory, his heart started beating. Yeah. I bet. Yeah. Oh, [ __ ] What do we do now? How do I convince this man who’s come upon the truth, my best friend, we can’t I can’t have him go down this road. And then one of the most astounding instances in history to change the history of the 20th century. He was able to convince Freud to drop it. And for their friendship’s sake, somehow Fliess convinced him. And Miller is making the central to not just this book, but many others. Pointing this out. Jesus, if Jean-Paul Sartre, Karl Kraus, and Thomas Szasz had this, whoa, I’m sure they would have taken it further, you know, and made it a central piece of their attacks. Which in themselves are are remarkable. But if they had this, what Alice Miller had, it would really They would I’m sure they would have had it as a central a central piece to come at psychoanalysis. Let’s read on. Viviane Klarak tells us that at age five, she was raped by her father, a high-ranking diplomat, and then was sexually abused for the next 10 years. When she was 25, she could no longer bear to keep the secret to herself and went to a counseling clinic for rape victims. The counselor tried to explain that incestuous relations occur frequently and that she needn’t be ashamed of her lustful feelings. Viviane’s hopes of being understood were dashed and although she agreed to another appointment, she did not return. Alice Miller. Right. So famous feminist here, French feminist, suffers from abuse, goes to the experts, right? The men in the white coats, and can’t believe her [ __ ] ears when they tell her that it’s her fan Oh, no, they admit that it happened, but she brought it on herself by probably being a flirt. So Freud starts saying it’s not seduction theory, it’s fantasy. The next step to go was it’s not only fantasy, but it’s the victim’s fault. So when people like myself are always taking potshots at academia, right? And big pharma. You know, [clears throat] can people see why the tolerance is so low and the our our idolatry is off the [ __ ] charts? There are goddamn good reasons for deep criticism. And I’m glad to see that many insiders, not just throwing stones from outside, but there’s plenty of people from within. Even those who even contributed to writing the DSM. Don’t want to get into a big tangent. Don’t want to get into a big tangent here talking about that, but it has happened, okay? Many many very high-level Right now you’d even have Sam Vaknin. Anybody into his work? Sam Vaknin, brilliant stuff. Brilliant stuff. You can see him on YouTube. Or you know, Gabor Maté and others, right? Jordan Peterson to a degree, I suppose. You might have to add him in. But there’s plenty of others even more credible than that who have dissented from within. And and rightly so. But let’s go on. Parents are never to blame. We are so strongly conditioned by this view that many of us fail to realize what it means and what the consequences are for the victim when the exertion of power and deception are described as incestuous relations or as imagination. No one’s imagination is strong enough to visualize the horror that is inflicted on children every day in the real world. Yeah. There you go. So if it’s fantasy as Freud defaulted to that that was his default point, she’s just refuting that outright. Mhm. Now again, doesn’t mean that she’s right. This is something that’s still ongoing. But you have to tread very very carefully. Children do have wild imaginations. But are those imaginations a compensation for what’s actually happened between parent and child? Miller is the is the one to talk about the you know, the the seductive thinking of a parent, you know, in the sense of the device of it. And body language and all sorts of ways that this occurs. Be far too you know, aggressive to go into all her case histories and examples in our programs to do that. But I encourage people to pick up the book and her books and check it out. See See because this is ongoing. Nobody has the answer. But it looks like a travesty took place that only aided and abetted adultism. Let’s go on. I often hear it said that we owe the discovery of child abuse to psychoanalysis. Errors like this point to the confusion reigning in this field. For in fact, it is precisely psychoanalysis that has held back and continues to hold back knowledge of child abuse. Alice Miller. Yeah, extraordinary. Extraordinary. So this is the other pan of the scale. This is of course where most people just they check out. It’s too complicated. First I’m getting to know what the positives are and then you throw a bunch of these negatives in and I can’t follow this. I’m out of here. Well, I’ve already already known that long before I became professional. Right, and doing what I’m doing in the public. When you hear of the foolery, not just on the streets, but even in the higher institutions and even up to Freud himself who couldn’t handle it. I’m not so naive as to think that that you know, it’s going to be an easy trip. This knowledge is really banished knowledge. As she says, it’s only for a few people. You know, who can handle it. The back and forth of it. Let’s go on. Freud has firmly locked the doors to our awareness of child abuse and has hidden the keys so carefully that ensuing generations have been unable to find them. And to this day, it is rare to find a Freudian who says, “How is it possible not to see all that? For 90 years, we have been listening to patients who were abused as children and we have reinforced the repression. They wanted to believe that nothing had happened to them and their symptoms persisted. We have allowed ourselves with lies. Instead, almost all of them say the same thing as if it were one voice. Freud never disputed that sexual abuse can sometimes occur in reality as well as in imagination, but those victims rarely consult an analyst. Unfortunately, they do. They come in droves and they stay. They stay for a long time and pay heavily for the truth to remain unrecognized and the parents to be spared. They lie on the couch four times a week, relate what comes to their minds, and wait for the miracle that never happens and in fact mustn’t be allowed to happen. For the miracle would come with the truth and it is the truth that is forbidden. Alice Miller, banished knowledge, facing childhood injuries. Unbelievable again. Yeah. So, she’s saying, “No, the Freudians know this and they say, ‘Oh, yeah, Freud never denied that you know, on occasion abuse really happens. But those people don’t matter because they’re not the ones who come for therapy.’ And Miller is laughing at that. She’s mocking that, right? As you read. No, they do. They come. But they’re looking for that miracle that never happens. So, here we’ve got gatekeepers then. I said if Sartre and Szasz and Karl Kraus had this, you know, they already knew it, but Miller expresses it. And she was also closer up. She was one of them. And she’s a dissenter, a brilliant mind who broke away and had the temerity because you see, Freud had a circle of over 10 different you know, students, acolytes who went on to be legends in their own right. And unfortunately, some of them and she mentions their names, went on to be exactly um proponents of this angle of Freud. Who openly told their molested clients, you know, as they came later and all and as they were older, “Oh, no, no, this was all your doing.” Oh, and by the way, just as we have it today, by the way. They would say to them, uh “Being messed with by your parents is kind of a natural thing. It’s only because of of social taboos.” Right? This was what they were told. These psychoanalysts were telling this to the patients, “Don’t worry about it. It’s something of the past. It’s quite natural anyway. Parents were quite right to do what they did to you. You’re wrong to feel, you know, that it was a bad thing. And if you’re riddled with guilt about it and shame or whatever, you know, maybe that’s because you also enjoyed it. Or the conflict is at least within you. But nobody’s really done anything wrong to you. You know, so this is what motivated Alice Miller. And we get the same thing today. Right? There’s a normalization of pedophilia. There’s whole organizations mostly made up of pedophiles and men who are trying to normalize it. Incest is like rampant in films today. And in documentaries and all sorts of nonsense on TV. It’s It’s becoming and it’s becoming more so as they push it and push it and push it in ad copy and in scenarios. They’ve been pushing it slowly and gradually for a long time. You know, in in imagery and movies. You just need to look at magazines and you’ll see it once your eyes are open. Let’s go on. Freud’s argumentation would never have been so successful if most people had not grown up in the same tradition. His successors might soon have noticed that what looks like a reasoned argument isn’t one at all. When Freud writes that it is unlikely that there are so many perverted fathers and he therefore describes the accounts of his female patients as fantasies, that is not an argument, but a childish denial of reality culminating in effect in the statement, “My papa, whom I love, is great and good and can never have done anything bad because I couldn’t imagine such a thing because in order to live, I need to believe that he loves me, protects me, doesn’t abuse me, and lives up to his responsibility.” Alice Miller, banished knowledge, facing childhood injuries. So, think of what all of our programs have said up to now when we talked about the superego, which then its job is to embody these imagos. And look at the internal conflict that you’re in when you do so, especially when the parents are actually abusive sexually or in any other way, by the way. Two titanic forces, the truth and the lie. Truth and the dissociation from the lie. The need of the superego to embody and to embellish and to inflate the image of these tyrants and molesters and the part of you that needs to dissociate from the evil that they’re doing and then justify it. And then this other little voice inside that damn well knows, right? It’s coming from the conscience. That what’s happening is is terribly wrong. And so the torturous state that you find yourself in. And then as we’ve said earlier, just in case it wasn’t clear, the self-hate that takes root from this. Because although you identify with these objects of your hate, you don’t really forgive yourself ultimately for doing it. So, when you hear the Bible talking about forgiveness, is it really talking about the forgiveness of others, which is what the churchmen want you to believe, right, in their own fiction that they’ve interpolated, or is it the forgiveness of oneself? For not only the identification with the object of your hate, but the rage that that you feel ashamed of when in fact, that rage is perfectly legitimate. And if you wore it as legitimate, you wouldn’t have neurosis. The whole thing would straighten out immediately and you’d be released from the anxiety. See, the anxiety comes from the tension of the conflict within you because of unnatural forces ruled over by the superego trying to silence the natural voice within you. And then out of this, Miller is saying, “It’s quite brilliant and natural for people to say, ‘Well, I need to hear that voice louder. I’m going to go to see a psychologist. I’m going to sort an analyst who’ll speak, you know, help resonate with the inner voice.’” Two voices, you know, speaking as one. This will This will help me. This will help me articulate how I really feel. So, you go there and you lie on the couch or whatever it might be, only to find out that you’re dealing with parent number two. Right? Somebody who’s so [ __ ] up or they just bought this Freudian doctrine and is going to actually, just like we read a few moments ago, tell you that no, maybe even you’re to blame. Or maybe it’s just your own childhood fantasies. And if they took that tack, are you going to be actually intelligent enough to say, “The hell with you, doctor. You’re wrong. I know this is [ __ ] Where did you get this theory? What I’m telling you is 100% true.” Are you going to be able to argue back with them? No. Cuz the real psychological knowledge isn’t there. And also, don’t you see, he’s the father figure or the father woman. Sorry, the you know, the matriarch sitting there, that great therapist with her specs on and her sign on the door and her parking space. And who the hell are you? And her PhD? You see, so you just sit there and you know, and curl up into a ball. You have no way of of of getting into it. Of standing up for yourself. These are the downsides. But just on a psychological level, this is where the conflict is. You have to have the imagos because part of you is scanning for that, scanning for heroes, but the ones that you interject, you secretly know are uh stitched up at the back. They’re false mannequins, false idols. So, obviously your identification with them is going to be utterly hypocritical. And another voice within you beats yourself up for doing it. But you don’t know any better. And it’s only then when the conflict, you know, is destabilizing you in your life at maybe a later age, for the most part. It can happen when you’re younger, of course. That now you have to go and seek help. And what do you do? You’re going from the frying frying pan into the fire. Because there’s no help to be found. So, Alice Miller, this is where her her position was. This was her pedestal. To wave her fists at the institutions of psychology and condemn them and hoping to, you know, make a make a radical change. But let’s go on. Since one’s own child is regarded as chattel, most deviant, absurd, or perverted behavior by a parent toward the child can destroy the life of the child with impunity and go unnoticed. If the abused daughter does eventually arrive at a clinic suffering from schizophrenia and is treated by her psychiatrist with massive doses of medication, with the result that she will know even less than she did before, she will never find out that actually it was her father’s behavior that drove her into madness. For to salvage his image, to see at least something good in her childhood, she must not know the truth. She would rather lose her mind. Alice Miller. And even if it doesn’t go that far to be completely schizophrenic and breaking down, what’s the what’s a what’s a lower step but just as vile? You’ve embodied one false archetype. Well, why not another? The person who’s in this pickle will now go out into the political world and accept a Barack Obama or some other demagogue. You’ve [clears throat] already done it in your own family. Your superego is already calibrated. So, you’re not going to look at detail to the cracks. This is how tyrants are born. This is how an authoritarian state is born. This is what I’ve been saying from day one of my career. Don’t give me the politics, give me the psychology. Do not leave consciousness at the door. You want to know how tyrants rule the world and have done for millennia? It all starts in this family constellation. And in these dynamics. And also, as I keep saying, we’ll say it again, the superego magnifies and amplifies, you know, the interjected imago. Making it all the more likely that there’s this unwarranted inflation taking place. The very condition that then uh allows you to go out into the physical world and do the same thing. To a teacher, right? To a doctor, to a priest, and to a politician. Where does it all come from? How can you possibly, right? And then in the end you wonder why there’s nothing but pedophiles ruling the world everywhere you look. Everywhere you turn. You put them there. You lost the ability, right? To determine character through this thing we’re uncovering right now. You You project it on unworthy people and they just made hay out of it. The amount of damage that’s been done by putting up false preachers, false politicians, false demagogues, and false gurus, this is this is permeated every aspect of our lives, this hero worship. It’s been uh mutilated in this way. And you are you know, we said it said that we inherited the lie. We become We feed off the lie. We need the lie. We need the lie to stay like it the slide just said, for me to think that daddy is such a wonderful person to maintain that. I’ve got to embody this lie. But part of that embodiment of that lie means that I might have to condemn myself. It’s very likely and it often happens. So, now we get the story of self-loathing, of masochism, which we’ve also unpacked before. But it’s all right. If we could superego go, but you’ll be all right. I’ve made it so that if you just sign here, I’ve made it so that you’ll be a happy discontent. Isn’t that good? I mean, there’s plenty of lights and flashing lights and pleasures and car chases and love scenes and, you know, gumballs for you to suck on. I mean, what’s wrong? You’ll be okay. We got skateboards and BMXs and, you know, porn. I mean, it’s just great. Come on. You can sign on for it. I’ve made the world, you know, non-stop entertainment for you. Just so that you can, you know, sugarcoat the whole thing. We don’t want any of that authenticity. That’s all all just hogwash. YOLO. You only live once. Yeah. [laughter] Yeah, if you call it anything. Yeah. And let’s just go to If you think I’m wrong, go to OnlyFans, go to TikTok and have a good look. Yeah. Just stand one day on a [ __ ] middle of it all and just say, “What the hell is all this about?” But let’s go on. Miller believed that the vast majority of psychotherapists had themselves been victims of child abuse but have repressed their memories of it. They became therapists and adopted the dogmatic position that the parents are never wrong. Miller believed that types such as this became heads of major psychiatric institutions where this dogma was made sacrosanct. In her view, patients within these institutions have little chance of being healed, only repressed and made to feel guilty. Yeah. Now, those are my own words. But it’s right. So, then other times, you know, when I’m railing against these people and all, look, Miller is agreeing. She, just like Freud, turned around for you know, for the benefit of his friend, she is giving case histories of the heads of institutions in Europe and elsewhere who are in the same pickle. It doesn’t matter what the white coat says and the nameplate. Doesn’t matter what the PhD says. Every individual is a human being who’s been through some of this and they themselves, in order to deny their own past, you see, have been victims of this and have done likewise. And then they set themselves up as those people who can treat schizophrenia, which has only been increasing down through the years. Almost all the conditions have been increasing, not decreasing. Exactly. Yeah. You know, depression, what have you, right? Anxiety, hypertension. It’s through the roof. Suicide, teen violence, child murder. It’s all been increasing. You see, that’s why I bring to bear to the people who listen to me these masters, these great great works, so that you can crack it, so you can understand, so that you’re not feeling that you’re in a wilderness and just alone. That’s a very bad place to be. This world is already challenging enough. No, I want people who listen to me to have access to the works of these [ __ ] geniuses. Because then you will say, “I now, right, I’m more conscious. I get it. Some of my inner thoughts are being substantiated, but I’m also learning a lot about the way things are. I don’t want to be one of these hypocrites myself and I don’t want to work for an institution that has them, you know, where I will have to be one of them and conditioned by them and bribed by them. No, I don’t want that. So, that’s going to be a matter of, you know, personal life changes. I don’t want to be one of them. I don’t want to be near them. And maybe I want to be part of the solution. Maybe what I’m reading and hearing now, I want to be part of the solution of tearing them down. And I’m certainly not going to raise my kids, my own children, to go on with pretensions of being parts of these [ __ ] rotten institutions, Blake’s satanic mills. Nope. Not going to happen under my watch. And the empowerment and the self-esteem, you see, that comes from that. That’s true child rearing. Now, we’re all sexual beings. We’re all sensual beings. Right? We’re all erotic. But obviously there’s a cutoff point. And repression is not the answer. But neither is hypocrisy. And the thing that we need to watch out is that the institutions of that are meant to be the healing institutions are not filled, right, with these [ __ ] jackasses, these hypocrites. And in knowing that they are hypocritical, now what they’re saying is, “Well, we won’t even bother with the psychotherapy aspect. Maybe for a a drunks and criminals we’ll do that. But, we’re just going to devise pharma pharmaceuticals. Take a pill is the first thing that happens today. You know. Take a pill, and that’ll that’ll solve all the problems. But, even within that, as I’ve spoken of many times before, that’s a deal with the devil. But, let’s go on. Dr. Elisabeth Trube-Becker, a specialist in forensic medicine, maintains that, based on the most recent studies, for every reported case of sexual abuse of children, there are 50 unreported cases to be assumed. If we add the physical and psychic abuses not primarily sexual, we arrive at the unavoidable conclusion that the crimes against children represent the most frequent of all types of crime. Yeah. It’s rampant. Getting worse. Getting worse. The whole of childhood is being marred by it. Uh let’s go on. It is the parents who not only project their sexual and aggressive fantasies onto the child, but are also able to act out these fantasies because they wield the power. It is probably thanks to this omission that many professionals in the psychiatric field, themselves the products of poisonous pedagogy, have been able to accept the Freudian theory of drives because it did not force them to question their idealized image of their parents. With the aid of Freud’s drive and structural theories, they have been able to continue obeying the commandment they internalized in early childhood, “Thou shalt not be aware of what your parents are doing to you.” Alice Miller, For Your Own Good, Hidden Cruelty in Child Rearing and the Roots of Violence. There you go. And the superego is again central to that. It’s the thing that actually actively does this on a moment-by-moment daily basis. Now, pedagogy, the word there, it means education. Mhm. All right. So, the poisonous education. So, it is coming down from on high. It is something that sadly got installed. A great deal of it has to do with the Puritanism uh of of uh religion. Or, as somebody like Wilhelm Reich would point out, just the armored culture. The emotional plague that is generational. It has to do with Gnostic elements. There’s a lot involved in this, and and that’s why we had to do things slowly, right? We’ve talked about this in the past. Just want to remind people. Because if you want to save yourself from this, it’s not only uh intellectual in the sense of knowing the backstory of, you know, religion and Gnosticism and all of that, but it’s also somatic. This this this releasing of yourself is to be done correctly. Otherwise, it won’t work. If you only have one component of this, it won’t work. You’ll You’ll strangle yourself in the webs in your attempt to be free. Your very struggling to be free strangles you. That’s the way the world order’s set up. That’s why so many so few people are enlightened. That’s why there’s so much colossal ignorance wall-to-wall and so much dependency, you know, on other lies, other other fallacies that we get. You know, we do settle for the sweets. Life is so bitter internally that we then sign on for, you know, Charlie’s Chocolate Factory. The whole thing. You’re You’re just like an infant. And most people find a career in going out to make more sweets for the next generation, right? We all add our own energies to the lie. Working tirelessly for the institutions that are providing the bromides. We don’t know any other way. And then, inwardly, all right, just like in the movie Brazil shows or Equilibrium, these fantastic films, you’re burning up wondering, you know, where you’re at. And, unfortunately, when you get together in the crowd, a group of other people, you not only have this uh rage, but you have the rage against anyone who is a true maverick. You detest those people on sight. Yep. I witnessed that firsthand. Yep. Yep. Now, see, Freud never in his own biography, he never turned this around. He did become more wise, and his later books show you that he was deeply pessimistic about the way things were going. There’s still incredible value in his insights. But, it’s not It’s true to say that he never actually flipped back. It It’s Alice Miller’s the only one. I told you some of the disciples of Sigmund Freud were went on to accuse the victims openly, leading the way to today, where you still get pediatricians and child psychologists talking about, “Oh, it’s fantasy. It’s something perverted in the child.” But, let’s go on. I’ve even I’ve even heard some of them say that that the child should forgive the perpetrator. That was another one. Yeah. Yes. I’m glad you brought that up. That’s so true. This is another abuse. Mhm. But, can’t even tell you why that is why that’s needed to be done. No, there’s forgiveness, all right, but it’s self-forgiveness. Forgiving yourself for not being able to fight back against what you knew were tyrants and for taking the contract of the superego. Cuz the moment that you did that, you you know, became a liar. You became part of the problem. And there’s a deeper voice that reacts against that. So, you have to forgive yourself for making the wrong decision and turn yourself into a skeptic, not a cynic, but a critic and a skeptic of society. But, as I say, do it backed up with the facts. Don’t do it as a rebel without a cause. That’s not going to work. Do it with intellectual understanding. This is all all correct. Now, you’re in a tradition of truth truth seekers and truth sayers, yeah. That’s different. And when you’re doing it that way, it’s only then that unseen powers come to your aid. If you’re a rebel without a cause, you’re just on your own. You land up in a rut. You know, but when you do it through the critical apparatus, which is more sincere and more studious, when you want truth above all things, and you’re slowly willing to commit to, you know, strengthening your insights, like we’re doing now, that’s when unseen forces come in to direct you to where you need to go and to be around, you know, the a different class of people as well. And let’s go on. Born Criminals. The perfectly normal infant is almost completely egocentric, greedy, dirty, violent in temper, destructive in habit, profoundly sexual in purpose, aggrandizing in attitude, devoid of all but the most primitive reality sense, without conscience or moral feeling, whose attitude to society, as represented by the family, is opportunist, inconsiderate, domineering, and sadistic. And when we come to consider the criminal type labeled psychopathic, it will be apparent that many of these characteristics can, under certain circumstances, persist into adult life. In fact, judged by adults’ social standards, the normal baby is, for all practical purposes, a born criminal. Edward Glover, child psychologist. And there’s a note in parentheses at the bottom. It says, “If a child resists such a projection, they risk being further chastised and condemned.” That’s right. So, here is Dr. Glover telling you what he believes, that children are just vile, egocentric, and almost purely destructive, except, and Freud believed this, too, that was the center of all his theories, as well, and that is without civilization, you know, and the forces of, man will just be this raging beast. He’s Dr. He’s He’s He’s Hyde. He’s Mr. Hyde, not Dr. Jekyll. Dr. Jekyll is a uh a construction. Yeah. A a construction of of society and civilization, which we need, problematic as it is, tyrannical as it often may be, unjust in many cases, and all the rest of it. Freud’s noticing all of those things. But, he’s saying it’s necessary. That’s his theory. Civilization is the bulwark against this level of madness. Then, on the individual level, if a parent in their state of adultism, contaminated by adultism, or society, thinks of children in this way, and Miller’s saying that we do, it’s it’s under there, then I say, “Yeah, but if a child is brought up like this and says, ‘No, I’m not.’” then they’re a rebel. And they bring on them the very thing that they’re trying to deny. Cuz now the parent has the right to say, “You little rat. How dare you fight against our will and our uh conclusions? How dare you shatter the reality? How can you do it, anyway? Doing endless good is not going to work. The parent, once they’ve got this into their head, is never going to uh uh thank you for your good deeds, but they’ll always punish you for bad deeds. How many people listening to now know that? Or they may have seen a sibling get praised, praised, praised, praised even for doing bugger all. And the other poor kid is only ever gets attention when he’s being beaten up on. And never given any praise for doing good, no matter how much good they actually do. Do you know how many people today are caught up in that? Because parents have created these catch-22 situations and no-win situations for their children. And then you go on to repeat it. But if you push back at this fallacy, now they have even more of a right to say, “How dare you contradict us? We’re the adults, we know what we’re talking about.” So this is a no-win situation. Once they have it installed in their head, ideal, you know, ideas like that. They’re not going to say these are false ideas. And if you dare stand up and contradict it, you will actually become the focus of even more condemnation. So it’s inescapable. The way the whole thing is set up. Let’s go on. In Sigmund Freud’s day, childish autoeroticism was punished with extreme severity and the touching of the genitals was countered with threats of castration because adults projected feelings of their own impurity onto the child and punished him for their own forbidden fantasies. However, this is not nearly reason enough to equate childish autoeroticism, sensuality, and curiosity with sexuality. Sexuality is the copulative urge of human beings who do not receive their hormonal directive until puberty. Alice Miller, Banished Knowledge, Facing Childhood Injuries. Yep. So a brilliant, brilliant statement that helps again squeegee your third eye. Brilliant. It’s not sexuality because that only comes online when the child is thinking in terms of reproduction. And that’s much later in life. So as I said before, we’re sensual beings, we have bodies, we have erogenous zones, we have sensuality. You know, and we even erotic once those are correctly understood. But the pedophile pedophilic person is sexual because they’re older. They have passed by the period where they become sexual. So they are the violators. It’s what she’s saying in basically in in her own way. The child is not The child’s interest in its genitalia, its own body, you know, before the age of five, before the age of what’s known as the phallic stage. And then that’s why we had to in previous shows show what kind of chaos is taking place through these psychosexual stages. A mother We focused on a terrible mother, didn’t we? Because she has the one who sees the births the child and has access to it in these early stages. The terrible mother is arresting the development of the of the boy’s sexuality. And the girl, let’s include her as well. Slightly There was a nuance, right? People who’ve watched and listened will know there’s a nuance there. But ultimately it it’s perverted. Her intrusion. So one way or another, it’s this adultism, you know, that’s interfering and and making a thing sexual when it’s not. Or inhibiting a natural flow of almost the same thing. Right? If I inhibit the natural organic growth of sexuality, look, it’s the same thing as any other kind of perverted action. Right? It all comes out in the wash. It’s all the same. If I oversexualize somebody who’s not sexual, like the molester does, that is a violation. But if I arrest a natural move towards sexuality, it’s equally as bad. So the parent errors on the bad parent is erring on two sides. That’s why it’s complicated. There’s a natural organic growth towards being sexual that can be arrested. That’s a crime. Then there can be the sexualization at a period of time when the the child is not sexual. That’s a crime. And what Miller is talking about is that the parent doesn’t even know what you’re talking about. There’s no sense of responsibility for either of those. It’s just you are my chattel. You are the weaker. You have no rights. We have assumed all the rights. We’re endowed. Let’s go on. Almost everywhere we find the effort marked by varying degrees of intensity and by the use of various coercive measures to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child within us. That is the weak, helpless, dependent creature in order to become an independent, competent adult deserving of respect. When we re-encounter this creature in our children, we persecute it with the same measures once used on ourselves. And this is what we are accustomed to call child rearing. Brilliant statement. Absolutely brilliant. So we get away from our own childhood because of all of this maelstrom of anxieties and and taboo thinking, we we’d rather move on. And then we birth our own children to sort of repeat the cycle. Because we haven’t worked it out in ourselves. But this also applies to stuff we’ve talked about in the past about the sadomasochistic type. Now we have to push away the the child in ourselves. Right? Uh we don’t want to be weak and we don’t want to be impotent. So what what does it follow that we do? We face the world with all of its challenges and adopt this very superior conquestative action. If I can prove to myself that I can handle life’s challenges and those pesky anxieties, I come out on top. And I further my you know, quest to distance myself from the inner child. Now both men and women do this, but the man would be more a poster child for this with his six-packs and his broad shoulders, you know, and his hammers and his, you know, saws and his whole disposition, his hard hat, overalls, right? This whole this whole mentality of overachieving that some men are just obsessed by. You even get it in the sports. You get it big time there. And this sort of hard-bodied mentality. You know, I’m not condemning it all, but I’m just showing that there is this aspect that is a way to say, “I have distanced myself from that child that was weak and impotent. And I acknowledge that life’s full of challenges, but I’ve handled it. I’m a winner.” You know, it just as an example of one of the symptoms. But the intellectual, the beta male says, “Well, I can’t, you know, push iron like that, but I can definitely show intellectual prowess. I love that feeling of being an expert uh and and having uh plenty of uh dependents. I’m a college professor. I’ve got away from that. I’m stern and solemn and austere and smart and educated. I got you know, look at my awards that I’ve got. You know, they they choose that dimension of it. Or then you get the holy Joes. [ __ ] they’re not even in this planet. They’re off They’re off. They’re in their black robes. They’ve They’ve moved superior to it all. They don’t even have sex. They don’t have families, right? You know, this whole caper as well. I’ve transcended it by leaving the world completely. I look down at you all. You see, I’m just giving examples of the way in which this can be achieved. But in our extrovert societies, there’s just so much simple busyness that you can avoid, I think, looking at yourself. Just that simple being caught up in the stimuli. But let’s go on. Mhm. Oh, if I may I just add another observation that I have. Um one of the things I noticed too to distract is to chase, you know, the chase the carrot and become successful in society. Um you know, becoming wealthy and making a name for yourself, having a social position. It kind of elevates you to an adult status where you can start looking down on others who haven’t achieved that same measure of success if you could call it that. I mean, that’s a blanket statement of course. In some cases it’s legitimate success, but as you’re talking I just think how much of it is also an attempt to escape uh escape the child. It is. It is. And another one even more pernicious that we must throw in is the motivating of your own children. Mhm. Yes. hyper way. Not letting them develop it themselves. No, no. You’ve already carved out the [ __ ] road for them. You push and push and push and do you see what I mean? The helicopter mothers that are the you know, the problem, the tiger mothers. It’s disgusting. There’s no Japanese kid that’s avoided it and many in the West. They’re the same. That’s That’s all part of the same thing. We can’t accept weakness, but a child is the greatest personification of weakness and impotency. But you can’t stand it in your own life if you’ve given birth to one. So, guess what you do? Suit it up, pressure the [ __ ] out of it to do well with the exams. You know? And just put it through the the roller coaster. Just put it through the mangle. Till there’s no child left. You haven’t even allowed it to savor what it is. In your own need to escape. You know, the reminder of your own inherent weakness. Now, it’s a very complicated thing this because people have heard me say that there’s a part of our mind that ego ideal which searches for heroes. As well. So, there’s a very fine line there. Somebody will say, “Oh, but the parent who’s encouraging their child to do well and be successful and heroic and have self-esteem. Isn’t that the thing that you advocate a lot, Michael? Now you’re saying that you it’s the opposite.” But I’m not saying the opposite. Right? There’s a big difference between the helicopter parent who wants the child to conform to the [ __ ] rotten society. To get that degree or you know, to uh to win the stripes of success just to prove it. That they’re somebody in the eyes of the parent. This relentless living through by proxy through your own child to feel big yourself. Rather than naturally allowing the child at the right time to awaken from within. You see, it’s own heroism. Via, you know, great models. Because you see, you can put anything in front of the child, but the child may not take to it. Many times they don’t. Right? But many times they do. So, it’s just a matter of allowing it to if the child comes back to you and says, “Oh, I like that story. I want that again.” It’s like hearing a piece of music that in the beginning you don’t pay much attention to it, but 6 months down the line you go, “Hey, do you remember that concert we saw or do you remember that band we heard? What was that?” You know, and you naturally get saying, “I want to hear more of that.” Your own being from you know, naturally. Your job is just to make available the whole pallet that’s out there. Not be niggardly, not be frugal with it. Try to expose your child to as much as out there and then you know, observe their orientation. Not impose upon them. You see, this uh boot camp jump through hoops and to succeed just to make us all feel better. This is the This is not not right. But let’s [clears throat] go on. Adultism. One. Adults are the masters, not the servants of the dependent child. Two. They determine in god-like fashion what is right and what is wrong. Three. The child is held responsible for their anger. Four. The parents must always be shielded. Five. The child’s life-affirming feelings pose a threat to the autocratic adult. Six. The child’s will must be broken as soon as possible. Seven. All this must happen at a very early age so the child won’t notice and will therefore not be able to expose the adults. Alice Miller. For your own good. Hidden cruelty in child rearing and the roots of violence. Yeah, great. I think it’s very self-explanatory. It’s the nature of adultism. Yeah, let’s go on. The methods that can be used to suppress vital spontaneity in the child are laying traps, lying, duplicity, subterfuge, manipulation, scare tactics, withdrawal of love, isolation, distrust, humiliating and disgracing the child, scorn, ridicule, and coercion even to the point of torture. Yeah, that’s exactly right. Because it This is the arsenal of weapons that the parent has. And as R.D. Laing said, the catch-22. Giving love and then withdrawing it. Saying hot and cold. Getting them into no-win situations, double binds, endless double binds. Like you know, these terrible mothers with their children with their boys. Is that the tie you’re going out with? I never can teach you to dress well. No girl’s going to want to look at you. But you’re my loving son. Mama loves you. You see, and all the rest of it. You can’t work out what what’s going on. Or the drumming down that you know, if you do get a girlfriend or a wife your mother is always backstabbing you in her presence, making sure to humiliate you even when you are the breadwinner. And turn your back for 5 minutes and the eyes start rolling. And the accusations and the put-downs. You see? And the child has to deal with that or witness it. Even if he’s not the direct you know, recipient, it’s happening. Something like this is going on. I’ve made the point that the whole of communism and socialism is entirely based in children, right? Who later become that or anarchists or something similar because they see competition at home. If there’s constant fighting between the mother and the father, that’s called a battle of wills. And usually the mother’s as bad as the father. They go at it, you know, you couldn’t separate them. They love it. But from the child’s perspective it’s one of the most dastardly and horrible things to witness. Because remember in the fight one of the wills is going to win the argument. And so what the child sees is one parent winning over the other and the humiliation of the other. And so it becomes instinctually hateful of competition. What will that mean when the child becomes political? It’s not rocket science. You hate anything to do with competition because you’ve seen it. You don’t like it. Because your identifications, right? You identify with the winner in the argument at home, but you also identify with the loser. This causes one of these catch-22 situations, this double bind. Result, communism. Look at these youths today. All these youths come from broken homes. Where there’s nothing but arguments and fights and frustrations. Now you’re wondering why they’re you know, wearing the Che Guevara t-shirts and waving the red flag and begging for Mondani to save them all. Right? It’s infecting the whole of America. Every state is throwing up some psycho leftist creature. Voted in by the public today in today’s world. While we run around the world trying to put out fires everywhere else. You see? Again, it’s not in the politics, it is in the psychology. But let’s go on. It is also a part of poisonous pedagogy to impart to the child from the beginning false information and beliefs that have been passed on from generation to generation and dutifully accepted by the young even though they are not only unproven, but are demonstrably false. Examples of such beliefs are one, a feeling of duty produces love. Two. Hatred can be done away with by forbidding it. Three. Parents deserve respect simply because they are parents. Four. Children are undeserving of respect simply because they are children. [clears throat] Five. Obedience makes a child strong. Six. A high degree of self-esteem is harmful. Seven. A low degree of self-esteem makes a person altruistic. Eight. Tenderness, doting is harmful. Nine. Responding to a child’s needs is wrong.

Severity and coldness are a good preparation for life. 11. A pretense of gratitude is better than honest ingratitude. 12. The way you behave is more important than the way you really are. 13. Neither parents nor God would survive being offended. 14. The body is something dirty and disgusting. 15. Strong feelings are harmful. 16. Parents are creatures free of drives and guilt. 17. Parents are always right. Mostly self-explanatory. But you do you do if you read through that again, you get your narcissism involved in there. You get the interjection. Uh, you know, and you get this call of duty. Under name of duty. So, the child grows up to feel that it’s dutiful to listen to these mad parents. And it’s dutiful to do this and it’s dutiful to do that. And if they make a request that you know, your wish is my command. Let alone the commands. It’s my duty to perform. And this duty number is entirely the basis of the super ego as well. Right. It’s your duty to do all of this because otherwise you won’t be accepted by the crowd. What? The crowd of other [ __ ] psychos like myself? Remember we talked about the four types? The the different uh neurotic types. That’s all you get. The hysterics, the depressives, the obsessives, and the and the schizoids. Or they get the fauners. And the freezed. The frozen ones, right? A few fighters. But as I said, we’ve already dealt with a fighter. If you fight back ooh-ooh, now you you’re totally going to you know, be in the crosshairs cuz now they have the justification. Before when they were accusing you of this and that being a vile child there was no uh evidence for this. But the moment that you push back, now you’re the delinquent. Now they have the full justification to bring the whole weight of governmentality down on your head. This is what passes for childhood. Let’s go on. Seductive mother. One mother got into bed with her 7-year-old son whenever she felt lonely or unhappy. And many parents, often in competition with each other, urgently sought out the affections of their children, many of whom were in the midst of the Oedipal stage. One mother described her 4-year-old daughter as sexy and a flirt and said it was obvious she would have trouble in her relationships with men. Alice Miller, For Your Own Good, Hidden Cruelty in Child Rearing and the Roots of Violence. Yeah. So, this thing becomes very dirty very quick. And although she specifies that about 90% of the time the incest is from a father to a daughter she rightly also does mention the incest of mothers towards their their sons. You know. So, she does even cover that. This would be uh her case histories are you know, a mother again, around about the Oedipal stage. Just when the child is about moving through the phallic. But even in periods before and after, she’ll run around in her lingerie. Uh uh sometimes it when it’s worse even naked you know, through the house. Uh in in full view. Sometimes this is done to a child even when his friends are there so they can all ogle. She’s exuding her sexuality around the place. You say, “Oh, can you help me undo my bra? Or can you help me zip up my thing, you know?” All of this caper. All the panoply of it. Uh putting on her makeup. Being not just sensual but sexual in front of their young child. Or as as she just mentioned you know, jumping into bed. Uh Uh you know, uh having the child sit on her knee when it’s inappropriate, when she’s half dressed. All all the antics you know, that we can imagine that happens. And by the way, it’s been creeping into the movies more and more and more. With people who have had their eyes open. This is atrocious. And Miller does talk about it as well. This uh this incest. Let’s go on. Seductive mother. If little boys feel that they cannot separate from their mother, perhaps this is caused by the way some women succeed in making their sons overly attached to them. Direct seductiveness produces the same result as unattainability. In both cases, the child learns that what matters most is to possess the other person. Arno Gruen. Mhm. Now, it’s quite natural for any child to want to be close, right? Physically to mother. See, so again, it’s a fine line. There is even need for skin-to-skin contact at a certain time. But then there’s a period when it’s not appropriate. It’s all in the adult. It’s all that how they manage it. We already said that a mother who is subtly uh making herself out to be the castrated one inevitably gets the child to side with her more. But the child cannot the male boy is becoming chivalric. He wants to defend his mother against some alleged right? assault. Over time, he’ll become uh antithetical to the male world. Which is what this terrible mother desires. So, it’s a sensuality, a sexuality mixed up with other things as well. Her deep inner loathing of her own father or of the male world is being now transferred to the child. But it’s been done under the name of love cuz love and sexuality are so fine that I or you, nobody else can find the line between them, you see? These are all inbuilt. It’s not Michael pointing these things out when he talks about fine lines between these. They are there. Nobody can work it out. But they can certainly be manipulated. The child wants warmth. The child wants to be near. But the mother can monopolize upon that, capitalize upon it by acting the victim. When she’s the adult, she can handle it. She doesn’t need to confide in you. She doesn’t need to put the weight of the world on a child’s shoulders who’s only four, five, six, seven years old. She’s the [ __ ] adult. And there’s plenty of ways to show love to a child right? That don’t become perverted. These are very very deep orders. Right. Now having said all of this and as much as I appreciate and respect Miller’s work as usual, right? It’s important to look at what might be missing in scholars of her kind, you know. This is something I need also talk about in conclusion here. Is there something that as brilliant she was that she missed? And I think there is. So, if we move to the next section, this one is called frigidity in women. It turns out that uh top experts, even those uh that were her early contemporaries like Helen Deutsch Karen Horney, the first women to ever talk about frigidity in women claimed that it is up to 50% of women have what’s called hyposexuality. I think Helen Deutsch in her book even said it’s even up to 80% but the official figures are about 45 to 50%. That’s half of womankind that suffer from frigidity and hyposexuality amazingly. So, I wanted to look at that and say that does this factor in because uh Alice Miller doesn’t seem to talk about it a lot. And I think it’s essential to to focus on. Let’s let’s read the next one. Miller got it right when she drew attention to the failure of psychologists, Freudians, and others to take the accounts of sexually abused children seriously. She was right to accuse incestuous fathers and incestuous mothers. She was right to fault experts when they dismissed patient accounts as fantasies. Naturally, frigid women will habitually claim that they are frigid because in their youth they were abused by men, fathers, relatives, and so on. There can be no doubt that accusations of this kind are to be taken seriously. However, being a woman herself, Miller may not have been able to even guess about the other causes of incest and sexual child abuse. The role of the terrible mother did not seem to be a major concern for her. She did not see that many forbidding and frigid mothers raised their daughters to think of sex with men as a bad thing, teaching their daughters to see men’s advances as unnatural, vile, and impressive. The asexual girl is one who does right by herself and womankind when she resists male domination. Frigid women are want to deny sexual pleasure not only to themselves but to their husbands after marriage. Clearly, this is a major cause for why many men are driven not only to cheat but to commit incest and other sexual crimes against women. This is particularly the case after childbirth. There you are. She missed it. She missed it. And no one can doubt that this is the case. Ask any man. Right? The woman cuts her hair, stops smelling good, looking good, can’t give a damn, starts gaining weight, or just in general stops servicing her man, without a single thought of what’s going to happen. I know for a fact that if women properly sexually served the men in their lives with real love and concern, crime stats would [ __ ] plummet. You would have still, you know, violations of sick men towards the women and to their daughters, yeah. But instead of being 10 fingers, it would be probably only two. But because Miller was a woman, she couldn’t see this. She’s identified with the woman. She wasn’t necessarily a feminist, but these are the same biases that the feminists claim that men have. Well, they have it [ __ ] too. But in this case, they’re less likely than a man to accept what I’ve just said. Right? They have a such a strong bias of being always right that any accusation of them will be rejected on face, even though it’s actually quite easy to understand, and even though empirically, the facts show that this is the case. If men were sexually serviced properly, they wouldn’t even need to see porn, or they wouldn’t even go to see the prostitutes. Right? But the same then, right? By the same token, they wouldn’t need to commit violations for which they’re going to feel ashamed and maybe even go to jail. I don’t think there can be any argument against that. This is not to exonerate the sickos that do evil things. I’m just pointing out that there is a glaring reason for why men go wrong. And as brilliant as Alice Miller’s work is, you know, was and is, just as it is with so many of these scholars, there’s an elephant in the room that they did not see. And it brings it full circle. And and then becomes consistent with everything you and I have talked about in previous programs. Let’s go to the summary slide for final remarks. The first point says, “This does not contradict my previous comments on how a daughter may be over sexualized by their terrible mother.” Oh, yes. That’s right. A couple of programs ago, when we talked about castration, we did bring this up. That when the male child at the phallic stage is often arrested because the mother doesn’t want to let him go and become an individual, we then specified that with a girl it’s slightly different, remember? And we said that the the terrible mother will over sexualize her so that when she enters into the the male world, she does well. And she’s able to abuse sexuality and beauty. Very, very common. But it turns out that there’s another kind of terrible mother who does the opposite. Right? We didn’t want to overcrowd, you see. In the past, we’ve done things in a certain way, and I didn’t want to bring this up then because it just overcrowds the podcasts we did, right? There’s already enough to digest. But I knew at a certain point in the future we’ll get to this. Yeah, there’s another type of female who in a uh unwarranted way, in a perverted way, will make the daughter feel that any kind of uh advances from male are just dirty and unnatural. Really bring them up to believe that. And so they won’t. Or if they do so, it’s with disgust. So they’re already predisposing girls to be frigid before they’ve even had any sexual contact. And it seems to be growing. Now, certain bodily needs and certain other needs can temporarily override that because the girl may go on to say, “Well, I want to give birth to babies. I want to be a mom like everybody else, right?” And to do that, I need to get married. Yes, but this is only provisional, as we’re all finding out in the world today. They can muster enough sexuality, you know, and wiles to push through that. Society sort of nudges you towards that anyway. It’s not that hard, and you’ve seen your favorite girlfriends do it, too. Normal girls are not frigid. Okay, so I can just muster enough to go through that. But oh, watch out. The timer is on. The fuse is lit. And usually about childbirth time, that’s the end of that. That is the end of that, and the man is horrified to find out that his wife’s attention is entirely distracted. He doesn’t [ __ ] exist. And he’s certainly not going to be pleasured anymore. Now, I ask you, who is the criminal? And if he gets the opportunity at work to cheat, right? Or go with somebody else who’s more [ __ ] normal, and to feel attractive again, and to feel needed again, is he going to care that that girl is 15 years old? Absolutely not. Absolutely not. But who’s the real criminal? The terrible mother. She worked it so that her daughter, like in one instance to over sexualize, but now we’re focusing on something different. A mother who’s telling that her daughter, no matter how beautiful that daughter is, that sex is repulsive. “We don’t need men, do we? They’re all dogs.” Over and over again. And the daughter sees it’s true because mama’s got rid of dad. Or so demonized him in my eyes that yeah, I’m going to believe it. I’ve been programmed from childhood. Okay, some other biological needs has forced me to go through the whole fiasco of getting married, but I’m not really married. I don’t give a damn about this guy. And should he make a single infraction, should he not live up to some impossible standards, oh [ __ ] if the floodgates don’t open. And I’ll make his life a living hell, as most women are doing today and have done, and are doing justifiably. And it’s like opening the gates of hell cuz it never seems to end, the accusations. Men are just giving up. They’re just saying, “Fuck you all.” Like they’re just giving up. It never ends. There’s no rationality. We’re going deeper and deeper into it. I’m telling you that we stay consistent with our programs. This revolves back to the terrible mother, and just cuz Alice Alice Miller didn’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s any less true. What was that second bullet point, though? We see now that it is the influence of a terrible mother, as well as the anti-male bias of feminists, that are of central importance to the problem. So all that tells us is that look, it’s not so simple as evil man with their lust. That is this is happening. This is an epidemic. You know? She’s right to point out that it’s 90% men who are doing it. But we’re not going to leave it there. That’s what the feminist wants. And I for one, I’m not ready to leave it there. It’s just not right. There are deeper levels. And the terrible mother, when she’s telling her daughter that, also has behind her toxic femininity backing her up, feminism, sorry. Toxic feminine feminism backing her up. She may be one. More likely than not, she is today in today’s world. But even when the the woman is not a feminist, it doesn’t mean that she can’t be perverted in this way. Even non-feminist women can mutilate their daughter’s psyche because there’s a secret uh This also goes into a secret envy of the beauty of a daughter. It’s part of the matrophobia dragon fight issue. And there can be a subversion of a daughter’s natural sexuality. But at the end of the day, it doesn’t even matter if the daughter is pretty. This kind of contagion happens even when the daughter her chances are far less. It It really doesn’t matter. Just being a a girl, being a a female, you can be the recipient of this. But it’s a lot more deadly when it is a beautiful girl who needs to, you know, be accepted in the male world. So there’s not a problem for girls. Either you’ve been over sexualized, which is a a vice of vices because you will have a lot of existential shame to handle when you abuse sexuality and beauty whether mother told you to do it, daddy told you to do it or any [ __ ] body told you to do it even if you’re doing it on your own. And many many millions of women are in that predicament. They have no intention of not doing it because of the media has said this is how you get everything in life, right? That’s that’s a crisis. This is an overwhelming crisis. And yet where are the religious types warning anybody about this? Reminding girls not to be like this. Nobody’s speaking about it. Our society is totally contaminated by this. That’s already a problem, but now we’ve got this other one. And it had to be given its own, you know, moment to speak about clearly without any fudging. Has to be crystal clear. Terrible mothers also arrest the daughter in this way by misrepresenting the intentions of men making sex feel dirty making you feel dirty for wanting it. You get them you get them in the high schools you get them in, you know, it happens really really early on. Now what what will happen is a girl sex I mean I don’t want to get into it there’s all these byways and things we can get into but one thing you can get into is why do young girls love horses? Because of this very point. Their sexuality has been uh displaced. Their sexual bodily urges their need for power right? The the dynamics that happen within sexual relations have been perverted. So instead of reacting to boys in a healthy way you see? It it sidetracks to an animal. There are other reasons for this as well which I don’t want to go into right now but this is one of the reasons why a girl will fantasize and love horses and get involved in that culture because it’s displaced sexuality. Oh yeah. And there’s lots of other reasons as well. And also it’s just we’re talking frigidity here. That’s a freeze. You’ve been exposed to a frozen forbidding mother and you will freeze because you’re in sympathetical with her. You can’t break it. She won’t allow it. And even later on when you are married is he picking after you? Is he doing this for you? Is he doing that for you? Oh my god, I can’t believe that. Is he cheating? Are you checking out his cell phone? Are you checking out his emails? Be suspicious. I saw him flirting at the party. So it goes on and on and on. The subversion, the envy like the bitchiness. And then you’re going to say there’s a point comes where this man has to be impeccably moral taking this day and night day and night from the somebody who’s meant to be his deepest confident confident somebody who’s meant to love him and care for his bodily needs and wants as he works himself to death. He’s got to be the pillar of rectitude. How long do you think that’s going to last? And how long do you think it’s going to last in basically a culture that’s utterly puritanical? You know, okay, you get all the sex drugs and rock and roll on the surface but what’s deep down inside? What’s the ultimate conditioning culturally? It’s all working against men. And he becomes what I’ve expressed hundreds of times he becomes just a a chivalric creature a eunuch for the most part a beta a simp a with a list of honey do lists. Add infant item. And when the woman gets pregnant oh [ __ ] me. Oh my god. The honey do lists never end. And then what do you going to wonder why he explodes when not even a single one of his own needs are being satisfied? But he’s running around like some page boy. Our world has become a [ __ ] hive you know? Like a beehive or an ant hive. And the woman is the queen bee sitting on her [ __ ] cushions with her champagne bloody cocktails and just cuz man is allowing it to happen and facilitating it doesn’t change this at all. Doesn’t make it any more perfect and pure. It’s not the chivalric male is not a male. He’s not in control of his own life. And we can see the evidence of this everywhere we look at everywhere we look today. But nobody knows what to do about it. Nobody knows how to diagnose it correctly. Nobody knows how to trace it back. And the saddest thing of all is the woman who is made frigid by her terrible mother is saturated with her own matrophobia but it’s never to be expressed. She’s not a fan herself of the feminine and and the mother. She secretly has a dent, you know, she secretly hates it. But as I tried to point out she’s identified with it. So these are this is not a misogynist posture that I’m talking about. This is a posture of understanding the female psyche that can be riddled with matrophobia on one side and yet in lockstep with the evil necrophilus will of a terrible mother. This is why it’s so unbreakable. And then of course the only victim man. Just keep wheeling out that or you know, keep looking for examples of bad men so that you, you know, you can justify it. But let’s go to that third bullet point there I think. The influence of the forbidding mother serves to awaken atavistic animosity toward men. Right. We had to put that one in because as we have elaborated on previous programs so deeply there’s a historical component as well. We never must forget that when we’re talking. Anything that happens on the stereotypical level with these dynamics will awaken this old atavistic memories of the way things used to be and you know, that the unconscious still very much remembers. So when the frigid forbidding mother is doing her work to awaken animosity within her daughter it goes deeper than just a stereotypical level. Right? It awakens that deeper cash of his historical hatred. You know, you’re really you’re really doing something devilish to the female psyche here which is already predisposed from time immemorial to be writhing in hatred towards the male, you know, for the reasons we’ve spoken of the loss of the sovereign power of the goddess. In days gone by when men were subservient men were sacrificial victims men were the galley the eunuchs. But then rose up, you know, as we’ve specified before and we’ve explained why that happened. It’s not as feminists tell you. So the female power was lost. And in the unconscious this is not forgotten. It’s not something of the past. It is historically speaking but it’s not psychically speaking. And so this is never about equality. It’s about revenge. The feminists who talk about equity it’s not equity. It’s the return of the gynecocratic power that they once enjoyed for millennia. And they want that again. But sadly this stereotypical thing we’ve been talking about right? Which is the lighting of the fuse in a young girl of repulsion towards male for their sexual advances if persisted too long and not cracked right? If something doesn’t happen in that girl’s youth like when she goes to school like falling in love would be a really good way to crack it so that everything that you have heard just gets trashed thank goodness. So when I see girls, you know, with posters on the wall of this or that idol I may loathe the idol myself of these pop icons but I I’m accepting it because at least I can see that this might help a girl break or or maybe hasn’t even been infected by the voice of a terrible mother. But in any in any case it’s usually a good thing. You know, because if you fall in love with some Keanu Reeves or whatever you know, whoever it is. I mean there’s problems there too but you know what I mean? This a certain idol worship is is a good sign in a way. But that better than that would be entering into the school to fall in love, you know, with with with a boy of your own age. There’s a very good chance then that all this programming your normal natural female passions can take over. But if you don’t see it and that girl is reaching almost university age and hasn’t had a [ __ ] date and is just livid and then the next thing you know, they’ve shorn their hair got the nose ring right? Wearing the pink hat. Oh, well, it’s all over. It’s all over for the rest of her life. But as I’m saying in that last slide, then what human race still has to wake up to is the atavistic component to this. That almost no one on the planet ever ever ever knows about or focuses on. I mean, absolutely nobody. All the experts I’ve read have got it uber wrong. Almost the reverse. But the idea is that then it awakens within women, you know, this atavistic hatred as well. The two will resonate. One will awaken and kindle even a more sinister, deeper And that’s how you get these societies which call for the total eradication of the male world. What is that group scum or whatever they’re called, right? I mean, you’ve you’ve you’ve had all sorts of abnormalities here. And eventually in certain women, even married women, it can come out. You know, these women who pick up a knife and castrate their husbands at night or you know, do something other there’s criminal activity. It takes all sorts of aberrant And then we talked about so homosexuality. Look at what we’re talking about. Look at its implications in everything we’ve just said. The girl who then becomes a lesbian can fool herself into saying, “I’m not frigid. I just don’t like men. I don’t like to you know, be touched by men ogling me. And the mother who told me to be like that also has won my support because I see she’s made me feel that she’s a victim. You know, when you say things like, “We don’t need men, do we?” You’re also create saying, “I I have to I have accepted the burden of raising you all on my own.” You know, the subtle hint is “I’ve taken it all on my own shoulders.” And often a child will hear that saying, “Oh, well, I’ll be there for you, Mom. You’re you’re so great. You’re so tough. But you’ve been put upon by life. I’ll be your support.” You know, so the orientation, like I said, is more towards the woman’s world. Almost exclusively. So I think that, you know, fills in a lot more that we know about homosexuality, but more so it’s to do with crime. We’ve looked at you know, why there’s incest. Why there is rape. As well. And as I said, the one who wants to escape their own impotency of youth is very easy for them to say when they turn to the world and its challenges and its anxieties, “I will overcome those. They’re not going to get on top of me.” So those are people who, like I said, can not only be overachievers in the wrong way, but they can also become the sadists. Which is just a more extreme version of the same thing in which you say, “Watch me crush that world. I’m not just going to overachieve and beat it at its own game. I’m going to make sure I stamp on it. Anything that gets in my way.” Right? That’s the sadistic type. So you get that, too. And there’s also sexual perversion involved in that. Why do you think older men will pick on, you know, young boys and molest them or young girls? It’s all born from the sadistic mentality. But the sadist, remember R.D. Laing said, it’s to enure or was it Goldberger or somebody said it’s to enure against a great feeling of pain. I think it was Goldberger, yeah. Yeah. And the enuring of the suffering that they’re going through is the suffering of having to enter into the solar world. He doesn’t say it verbally, but this is what I think it is. It’s it’s Freud’s happy discontent. The masochist is a discontent and the sadist is a discontent. They’re just flip sides of the coin. And the homosexuality aspect is just taking refuge with one side or the other that feels more comfortable. Or there’s been false identification created. The girl who’s been told that the male advances are horrible and vile, uh do we need to be rocket scientists to work out what the exonerating factor is? It’s males who are the dribbling dogs. But girls are just wonderful. Huggy huggy lovey, right? Oh, they’ve all suffered like I have. And many of them bloody probably have even been molested. But all those molested girls are not going to do what we’ve just done and reach back in their memory and find out that there’s a bloody terrible mother sitting like Sheila but at the center of the web. It’s just going to be 100% blame of men. Now, I’m not trying to exonerate men, but I’m trying to show you the other side of it. A key missing piece. We can’t keep going along on the same tracks that we have. And the woman who is doing all of this is just compensating. Nine times out of 10 they’re going to be riddled themselves with the matrophobia because there’s something deep inside themselves that actually does know what I’m talking about. But because the super ego clamp is on them, right? Mhm. It just does not allow that voice to awaken. And that’s why they’ve done statistics to show that it is women who are the most conformist. It’s women who need each other’s approval. It’s women who don’t want to rock the boat. Yep. All of these factors go back to what we’re talking about. They’re not they’re not virtues. They’ve been seen as virtues, but even as we’ve seen way back in the Victorian times is where the seeds of this, you know, destructiveness were put. A whole of our society’s gone wrong. Yeah, because it’s not just the terrible mother that has suppressed sexual desire and sexual need. It’s these bloody preachers. It’s this this whole puritanical thing. Mhm. That hasn’t gone anywhere really. And we’ve already talked about that the perversions often come from that because the perversions come from the man who’s got a repressed sexuality. He can’t take it at a certain point and then, you know, there’s a there’s a snap. Yep. In a non-repressed society, you wouldn’t be getting all these violations. And the secret of stuff. And the running over to Thailand or wherever, right? So that you can have your pick of all these adolescent girls or whatever monstrous stuff they’re into. Right? That’s all allowed, but no, Wilhelm Reich, we can’t listen to what he had to say. But that slide where she’s talking about that it’s not sexual. Right? That comes on later when the procreative instincts are awakened. That’s true. But the pedophile, do don’t you see, is going to is it going to grab that and say, “I’m not violating anybody. It’s not sexual.” Yeah, exactly. You can’t [ __ ] win. So it’s at this point that our society needs to say, “Shut the [ __ ] up. Yes, it is. You are sexual, dumbass. You’re older.” When kids play around like that, it’s just called play. It’s harmless. Nobody bothers. Just keep on washing the dishes. Who cares? Right? A bit of smooching in the corner, no no big deal. But when it’s an adult, yes, it [ __ ] is. And we’re going to make sure that it is. We’re going to lay down the law. There’s not going to be any equivocation. You’re not getting out of prison. Right? We’re not going to just wrap you on the on the wrist or we’re not going to have judges saying, “Well, the victim is to blame here. A bit of flirtatiousness.” Oh, is that what you know? You know, all the weakening. This is what your socialism has brought brought you. Oh, and now we’ve got [ __ ] gentle parenting. You want to know how to breed a psychopath? If you push up against your parents and they just [ __ ] fall apart and you know, fulfill your every desire. They’re just like flaccid. Mhm. Like putty. The screaming child is going to end up doing what? What’s he going to become when there’s not even the ounce of discipline? There’s no push back at all. They just give way. You’re breeding the psychopaths that the other slide talked about, you know, when it looked like a born criminal. Gentle parenting will birth criminal children. I mean, it’s obvious. Yet these books are [ __ ] bestsellers. They’re getting five stars. This is likely to become the next big thing. Remember, the fatherless homes already are moving in that direction because these women are very permissive. These single mothers are permissive as hell with their children. It’s already happening. But it could get even worse if this doctrine that we know as gentle parenting. The child has no push back, no discipline. So again, society’s going to make them feral. They’re not feral in and of themselves. Right? But they’ll be made this way by the guilt of parents who thinking that they’re too you know prohibitive flip to the other side. Cuz they just can’t get it right. They don’t know anything of the psychology. How to balance things out. How to sometimes talk to you know you need See, what I’m talking about here is a child now with no [ __ ] super ego. We we’ve labeled the super ego as one of the main culprits. We sketched that out in you know in fairly good detail, but there’s this gentle parenting is nullifying even those controls. With no actual reason why you’re doing it. It’s just cuz both parents are not total betas. And this is all the the logic they can come up with. You know, and there comes another dogma, you know, a one-size-fits-all system. You’re not catering it to the child itself. Some child need the discipline, others don’t need it as much. We’re not caring about that. We’re not custom making it for the child. We’re just blanketing. This is the way it all should be. Eat as much as you want. Stay up as late as you want. You know, act whichever way. And and parents give way to their every need, every desire. And all you’re doing is arresting the child at that archaic level, right? You’re not introducing it to reality. And you are you know, arresting it at the magical child level. Probably, you know, at times when that should have already passed by. And we don’t have time to deal with all the other aberrancies that that brings that brings into being. You know, in this podcast I said we don’t want to overcrowd what we’re talking about here, but it’s not a good thing. You can’t suspend the super ego so easily. If you want to dismantle it, it’s got to be done in a far more clever and educated way than than that. That’s just again taking a shortcut attempt. All you’ll do is make the child totally delinquent. If it wasn’t one already, it will become one. You’ll raise nothing but delinquents. Hedonists. Whose every single whim, even those that are self-destructive. You see, this is how it can turn, right? The child becomes perverted in themselves because there’s many things that the child might want that are not good for it. Well, with gentle parenting, that that is erased. So, the child loses its own you know, it affects its own self-schema. It’s like flooded. Delayed gratification may be suspended. You know, all sorts of bad things we can’t look into right now. It’s not the theme of this show. So, we you know, we can leave it there unless you have other questions, but I think we’ve done really well here to help further further what we were doing last time and certainly recommend Alice Miller, even though I had those criticisms at the end, right? This does not mean that people should not deeply invest time, you know, deeply to look at her work. And weigh up for themselves. And look at the whole Freudian thing from this perspective. You be critical. Look at the positives, look at the negatives. Always remembering that the vast majority of things that Freud hadn’t worked out in the past or even got wrong were fixed, right? Does that as well. And were embellished and and and uh advanced in brilliant ways. But this one really does stand out. This was never corrected. I think we’ve seen that. This one was bad from the beginning and was never corrected. He bent to the will of a friend. And he also had his own father, you see. In in in question a question mark about his own upbringing as well. But whatever it was, he showed fatal weakness. And he capitulated to the will of a man who turned out, as his own son says, “My father was a bloody pedophile himself and had the power to change the mind of one of the greatest men in the 20th century. To flip it round. Freud was onto it originally, the right, you know, perspective. With all the patients who were coming to him and telling this was happening. And he didn’t service them. Yeah. Horrific. Yeah, I guess it’s Oh, sorry. I just wanted to say I guess it So, up until today it wasn’t changed. I I just wanted to say I guess it really does speak to the power of the super ego though. I mean, the fact that somebody as as just powerful as Sigmund Freud, psychologically strong, could still be bent to the will of that um parental voice in his head over his own conscience. Um it really speaks volumes. Yeah, sorry for the interruption. Yeah. Well, no, no, I’m glad you brought that is up. It’s very very important to see this.

[clears throat] Yes, it is a flaw. But now you know what a real criticism of Freud is about. Which you could go through years and years of college education and this would never be mentioned. They might even bring up other other, you know, cogent and they do, cogent criticisms, but this is the uber criticism. This is the one that really sticks. This is the one that will get you an A. Alice Miller had it all the time, but they don’t teach her. Who I No guesses why that is. She’s an advocate of the child. Well, that’s the end of that. In our society, you can never be that. Right? So, I’m bringing that to people. This is the main area of criticism that was never never corrected even by later people. Almost every other mistake that Freud made was corrected and sometimes brilliantly so. I mean, really brilliantly so by people who followed him. But this one, no. So, those critics of Freud, right? Who are who are adamantly sure that something went wrong, they need to know about this. So, when I talk to them and I find out they don’t know about this, I’m not really that inclined, you know, through my life. I take what they have to say with a pinch of salt. Cuz I know they haven’t done their full research. They’re not really coming from a a proper place. I know more than they do about it. And only in only in certain cases will I, you know, send them a book by Alice Miller and go, “Hey, mate. I know you mean well. Are you familiar with Alice Miller’s criticisms of Sigmund Freud?” They go, “What? No, no, don’t know.” And so then okay, what can you do? They’re into something else. You know, it’s [clears throat] just ad hoc. Yeah. Yeah, because if you do that with Freud, then you can do it with anybody. Then you’re just a cynic. Everybody is worthy of your takedown. You know, like we’ve got today with these wokies. Yeah. Deconstruct It’s called deconstructionism. Yeah, [ __ ] that. [ __ ] that, you know. The only people that the deconstructionists don’t touch is themselves. It’s an interesting choice of word, too. Yeah. Deconstructionist. It’s just interesting they’d choose that without realizing what they’re even saying. Pretty um Oh, yeah, yeah. The critical theorist will take down everybody except themself. Uses all his tools, his armory against everyone else in the world. But the one person who’s exonerated is his own gang, his own people. It’s so pathetic. It doesn’t even bear Well, you know, it’s it’s just you got to see through it. There is a positive criticalness that is required. But as I stated, it is just you knowing the opposite of everything that you believe. There’s nothing wrong with that. That’s a good mental exercise. You’ll soon find out in your own life it is very valuable. It’s a very difficult learning curve in the beginning because it seems to go run counter to everything you believe. That’s cuz people are fanatical. You know, and and their ego structure set up in a certain way that wants to territorialized knowledge. Right. Yeah. Yeah. And lord it over other people. In this sort of authoritarian way. But there’s another kind of thinking. The cooler This is represented by the sign Libra as you well know. Opposite to Aries. A cooler headed um position in which polarity matters. And reflectivity, right? Specular qualities. And objectivity. Yeah, true listening. True listening. Yes. Yes. Yes, it’s more passive. It’s more feminine. Not this gung-ho rage. You know, it’s this ability to dialogue. Open up a dialectical dialogue with yourself. Observe yourself and it’s very very critical. It’s part of the spiritual journey. Well, very few people have this. Even the ones who think they have it. Like I said, these deconstructionists. No, no, no. They’re running on a power trip. They’re not they’re not any further from Aries than they think. They think they’re being Libran, but they’re not. Cuz their whole thing is is motivated by a power trip to overcome and suppress and destroy. Oh, well, I want to actually just say you it’s interesting in evolutionary astrology, Jeff Wolf Green actually made a really great observation about Libra. And in its you know, in its more unconscious form, it’s also the projection of expectation onto another. Expecting them to behave a certain way based on our own values, but not actually seeing or actually respecting the other person’s sovereignty. So, it’s sort of a shadow side of Libra. Yeah. Yeah. I I can accept that. But the positive aspect, of course, would be to be open to the other other Exactly. Not because you’re some sort of altruist or somebody who lacks self-esteem, which is mostly what we do when we cater to other people and let them rule over us. Yeah. But that’s the Aries sneaking back in the back door. [laughter] So still still a power dynamic. You’re just the loser in the power dynamic. That’s not Libra at all. Libra is equality. See, why does Lady Justice even wear the What is it? The mask over her eyes? Or her blindfold. Yeah. It’s brilliant, right? Because in the Egyptian times Lady Ma’at, the the goddess of justice, could pass justice, even if it was a terrible justice. But she’s blinded to the consequence. If you go to hell or you get devoured by Sobek, so what? She’s blinded to your cries. Cuz justice is [ __ ] justice. It’s not going to be tempered or weakened by, you know, the one who’s fallen short of her divine law. So they always show her, you know, in the courts, when they show Lady Justice, yeah, she’s blindfolded cuz she’s not going to be swayed by the emotional. It’s the It’s the least emotional sign in the zodiac. Mhm. But it’s a cool, detached, objective state in which there really is a listening. Right? But not so that you can lose your identity, but so that you can enhance it. Because the dialogue between two people or you and other people must be embodied within. No one in this world should be able to tell you the opposite position to your own beliefs and the things that you hold dear. You alone. You you should be your own critic first. This is the historical way. This is the way of the philosopher. But today, where’s the time? We barely have the time to wield our own knowledge like a club over other people. You know, and beating them down gives us our feeling of euphoria, what we know. There’s none of this other and the institutions, they just codified that. They used to be different. Right? But now all of Harvard and all these places, they’re just fanatical. All of them have been turned over to the progressive aspect, to the deconstructionists, which is opposed of being egalitarian and open. No. They’re wielding a club to destroy the Western world. You know, by bringing it down in this systematic way. Same thing with their multiculturalism. Same thing with their pluralism. Same thing even with their ecology nonsense. They don’t care about the planet Earth. They don’t care about anything like that. No. That’s why we ended on that thing about the, you know, the ancient gynocracy. This is a power dynamic where circuitous routes have been used. Modern women being used, right? Modern women meant to be adjusted to the modern world. No. Their psyches are being used as doomed to stay weapons to bring down you know, Western Apollonian culture. Drag it into the mud. But the sad thing is it’s being successful. Now, I don’t believe it’ll be ultimately successful because as you and I have talked before, what the women of the world are doing, these feminists, is so anti-feminine. It’s anti-goddess. The real goddess is Mother Nature. And everything they’re doing is an affront. Everything they’re doing to their own bodies, everything they’re doing in their own psyche is an affront to the anima. And the last enemy you want is the anima. Cuz if she comes back in a terrible form, which I believe has has been happening, you are [ __ ] royally [ __ ] Right? That’s it. You couldn’t Do not awaken this enemy. It’s dark mother divine, right? So she’ll come after you. She’s destroying women all the time. The weight gain, the ill health, right? All of these things that are happening to women, if they could only but objectively notice it, is being caused by the thing they think they’re worshipping. What a paradox. Yeah. It sends your head into a spin. The thing they think they’re worshipping is not worshipping them in return because it’s been so abused. When you abuse the male and the masculine, the opposite comes to its rescue. It’s classic Jungian compensation. Right? The archetypes work this way. They’re linked. Mhm. If you violate one, boing, the other one comes up and and tries to, you know, bring back psychic equilibrium. Yeah. But if you overdo it, if you keep on violating the archetypal matrix, which has has been happening. Feminism is its apotheosis. Then it is the anima that comes back in uh you know, whatever term you want to use, demonic, vampiristic, destructive form to wreak havoc. And this is an enemy that’s so silent and brilliant, you can’t do anything about it. It doesn’t give any quarter. You can just stand back and [ __ ] awe. But it has its own mysterious way. So it’s it’s like Pied Piper, right? Coming in, playing a tune, and all these [ __ ] loser women are following it. Mhm. Right off the edge of the cliff. And none of them have a clue that that’s happening. They’re just becoming more and more hysterical, more raging, more loony, you know, thinking that they’re worshipping the feminine. That’s that’s the illusion because the anima is the mass is the mistress of imagery. She throws up the hermaphrodite. She throws up the androgyne. She throws up uh you know, um the images of female supremacy. All chimeras, all illusion. Mhm. Dangles it in front of them and boy oh boy, what what you know, watch them do what they do. Right? They tried to seize the torch of power. But they did it in a uh tyrannical way, suppressing men who’ve actually made the world, who’ve built it, instead of assisting them. And then when they see a genuine mistake, working side by side with men to fix it. Guiding. Nope. No, no, no. And then the worst crime of all, with the greatest affront to the anima, misusing sexuality and beauty. For what? Superficial empty [ __ ] gains? Are you kidding me? You think that’s going to be allowed by the moral universe? It is not. And it is not It is not being allowed. No, it isn’t. It really [clears throat] isn’t. Yeah. But the the pestilence and the infection you see comes to women in a way that they they they cannot see. They’re blinded already. And the hysterics of the crowd, the crowd consciousness, you know, the weak person joining the crowd for all the reasons we’ve explained in the past. This is what’s going on. And then the breakdown in the psyche is reflected in these uh aberrant sexual mores, the homosexuality. You know, and I think today we’ve done a brilliant job at we able to color that in. Once the sexuality, which is core, which is part of a person’s core identity, is subverted by the terrible mother or the terrible parent, you know, and or the influence of the terrible mother on a woman who then goes out into the world, but ends up really being sort of a frigid creature, a man hater, but then goes through the marriage despite that, right? And then ends up not really wanting to be there. Shifts the focus from her husband who doesn’t know what the [ __ ] is happening. Yeah, but then we can’t ask There are certain men who are not going to be able to handle that correctly. And they’re going to become deviant. That’s just inevitable. You’re not going to stop it. I can’t stop it. Nobody can. But what you can do is understand it properly. I tell you absolutely, if women did not do this and properly sexually serve their men after marriage, genuinely and with a conscientiousness, crime rates would plummet. Yeah, Dr. John Gray would Dr. John Gray would also echo that. I’ve heard him say it multiple times that even abuse in the household, some like male violence in general, would would be drastically reduced Yeah. if if women were more respectful and just loving to the men in like their their romantic s- uh you know, significant other, husband, whatever. Yeah. Yeah. And do it sincerely, not just as female mystique, so that you can pull a husband in the beginning. Oh, that that they’ve managed to do, no problem, cosmetically and whatever. Mhm. But it’s not genuine. And I met John Gray. He’s a really decent guy. I like him a lot. Oh, yeah. Oh, wow. Right on. Yeah. I like him. I like his work. I can I always uh you know, I always liked him. So yeah, the the this is uh deep waters, but I think we’ve done a very, very good job. Yeah. And all we’ve done is show that Miller, for all her genius, and she’s right in all of these points, and I point that out that she was right to accuse the psychoanalysts and the authoritarian uh communities, you know, for trying to suppress the facts and to go along with this uh really rather sordid and pathetic Freudian model that no child is really being abused. She’s right to have exposed that in her work. But like in so many teachers, there’s something It’s not what’s being said, it’s what’s also being omitted. You know, and I’ve got an eye for that. So, just wanted to share that. Thank you so much uh Sarah for letting me do that. I hope that uh people get some insight into that, you know. But don’t let us stop you reading Miller. And certainly not Thomas Szasz. These people’s work is precious. You know, and uh it’s it’s it’s terrible to think that they may be, you know, pushed to the side and forgotten. Or worse, that some other Johnny jumps up speaking exactly the same thing without reference to these teachers. That can happen, too. Someone takes all the credit, some new Jordan Peterson type who gets all the traction, gets viral, and all they’re doing is repeating these works, but they never cite. This is happening. It’s happening in philosophy, which has been hijacked. It’s happening in psychology, which has been hijacked. So, I like to bring, you know, be authentic and bring the actual names of these creators to bear so that that can’t happen. Or at least make it less likely for that to happen. Yeah, I really appreciate that you do that because it also helps people who want to study and and vet this information for themselves. It gives them a track to follow to find that information so that they can confirm it for themselves and maybe see something that we haven’t seen and that you haven’t presented another angle on it. So, um really greatly appreciate that you’re providing so many resources and uh just want to thank you once again, you know, um every episode I learn something new. I’m sure that or confirm and also I things are confirmed that I thought, you know, I I wondered about or that I observed as well. I’m sure this is the case for viewers, too. Um and as always, I just like to say to anyone who’s listening, if you made it to the end, but you’re still feeling pretty, I don’t know, maybe activated, triggered by what Michael has said. At first, I just want to say thank you for listening to the end cuz I know it can’t always be easy when this is new. It can be really upsetting, but also, you know, keep watching and if you haven’t watched the um the playlist, please do. There’s such a wealth of information here that nobody really is talking about in the current day, not in the way that Michael has presented. He’s really synthesized this information and presented it in what I see as a quite a comprehensive way, and I will continue to build on this, I’m sure. So, yeah, thanks again, Michael. We’ll see you next time. Oh, thank you, Sarah. Thank you so much. See you next time. And with that, we bring this episode of The Dark Side of the Female Psyche to a close. There’s still more to come in this series, so make sure you’re subscribed to Willfully Evolving Woman here on YouTube and turn on your notifications so that you’ll know when the next episode is ready. More social media accounts may be added in due time, so if that interests you, bookmark willfullyevolvingwoman.com and be sure to check back periodically. 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